Until We Meet Again...
By: Jeff Cairo
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Your in the middle of everyday life. Maybe your doing something at work, doing something at home or even sleeping for that matter. And you get that call. Someone close to you has passed away. You may have been expecting it or maybe it caught you completely by surprise. Either way you are so shocked you don’t even know how to act. Do I cry? Do I get mad? Do I just stay still waiting to move. Every second of everyday someone dies. I’m here to tell it is ok not to know how to react. It doesn’t make you weak if you cry it doesn’t mean you didn’t care about the person if you don’t. Every person deals with death in a different way. If its someone older usually there may be some signs it could happen. They become ill and their condition worsens so you you try and prepare yourself and the family. If its someone younger and it is an accident or some other tragedy, that is usually harder to deal with when it happens.
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There is no way to describe the feeling unless you experience it for yourself. Psychology tells us that one of the biggest things people fear is the feeling of loss. When that person is no longer in your life how are you supposed to carry Your in the middle of everyday life. Maybe your doing something at work, doing something at home or even sleeping for that matter. And you get that call. Someone close to you has passed away. You may have been expecting it or maybe it caught you completely by surprise. Either way you are so shocked you don’t even know how to act. Do I cry? Do I get mad? Do I just stay still waiting to move. Every second of everyday someone dies. I’m here to tell it is ok not to know how to react. It doesn’t make you weak if you cry it doesn’t mean you didn’t care about the person if you don’t. Every person deals with death in a different way. If its someone older usually there may be some signs it could happen. They become ill and their condition worsens so you you try and prepare yourself and the family. If its someone younger and it is an accident or some other tragedy, that is usually harder to deal with when it happens.? I don’t have an exact answer because everyone is different. You have to remember its a part of life there is nothing you can do to stop it. You can’t feel guilty if it is a tragedy (suicide, overdose etc). I have heard people say “I should have known”, “I should have been there to help them get through this and that”. You can not be held responsible for other peoples actions. Then there are instances where people hold stupid grudges about dumb shit and then the person dies and they feel bad because they haven’t talked to them in years. If its warranted and you want the person out of your life so be it. If not try and make sure you stay in contact with friends and loved ones as much as possible. If it is a sickness or disease,doctors and scientists work countless hours looking for cures and there isn’t always one. If its your time than its your time. I’m not sure how much control we have over it. It could be a wakeup call to some people.
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You have to have faith in yourself and whatever religion you believe in that their spirit never dies.You have to believe that even though you can’t see them that they are standing right next to you. You have to live life like they are right by your side. They are watching over you and they will show you the signs that they are there.When someone passes it should be a celebration of life. The memories you have of them have to be carried out everyday. There is nothing wrong with talking out loud to them. I remember visiting my dad at the cemetery and talking to him asking him to watch over all of us. Asking to show me the signs when it was time to make. a big decision. You would be surprised how weird things happen. Whether it was coincidence or not it doesn’t matter because thats how you cope with the loss.
Whether your a skeptic or not I suggest going to a Medium. A renowned one would be your best bet. I was completely skeptical but after going I couldn’t believe the interaction. I understand that people believe because your vulnerable that your being manipulated. That is far from the truth. It was not a hoax by any means and it does give you some closure.
You have to go on with your life though. The person who passed would not want you to sit and mourn for the rest of your life. You have to be strong for the surviving people in the family and move on. That doesn’t mean your forgetting them, it doesn’t mean they aren’t part of your life anymore. You will always carry them in your heart and your mind. Someday you may meet up with them again…